I believe that coaching is an important tool in helping people create lives that are happier, more fulfilling, and sustainable.
What do I mean by that? It seems that the world has gotten faster and faster and that we are constantly running at a breakneck pace in our lives—both personally and professionally. We spend a lot of time striving for “something better,” and trying to find our happiness in whatever is outside ourselves. We thought that once we had this degree, this job, this relationship, or this lifestyle that we would be happy.
We spend our precious time in a haze of busyness and striving and then one day we wake up and realize that we have no idea how we got where we are. It just sort of happened. We live longer than we ever have. We have more creature comforts and luxuries–money, larger homes, and lots and lots of “stuff” and we still find that we aren’t happy.
But we forgot something—to nurture ourselves and to take our own philosophy, values, morals, desires, and needs into account. Heck, most of people now don’t even think about what these things are for themselves. We have forgotten where happiness comes from. Our happiness starts inside us.
I believe that finding our happiness starts from the inside out. I believe that it is important to find out what it is that you stand for and believe in and value and use these things as the touchstone for all the choices that you make in your lives.
I believe in having good relationships and support systems. You don’t need many. One or two people will do. They could be friends, family members, mentors, professionals (therapists, consultants, coaches). You just have to have them—we are hardwired to be connected to others. We have more well-being when we have stable relationships in our lives.
I believe that mindfulness is the best way to keep ourselves accountable to what we say we are going to do, what we want, and our priorities. It helps us to change behavior that isn’t helpful to us and to understand why we do the things we do without thinking about them.
Will you still have fears to face? Absolutely. Will your life be perfect? No. But what you will learn is that you can choose how you want to show up in the world no matter what your circumstances may be—good or bad. The concepts are simple—the challenge is in the consistent practice, especially when our circumstances are difficult.
Dana Samardzich, PCC, CPC